I recently read an article about the hidden female mindset, discussing how men don’t understand what women go through on a daily basis in regards to everyday sexism. The author of the article talked about how women have been ‘trained’ to constantly brush aside anything that makes them feel uncomfortable or makes them feel like the lesser sex. Now then, I’ve had my fair share and I 100% agree with how messed up the world is when I can’t walk down a street at night without my phone clutched in my hand. It’s uncool, it’s unnecessary and there is a part of me that jumps at strange noises (although that could just be me with my inherent fear of balloons and fireworks). What I don’t agree with is how the author talked about being wary of men on the street, in car parks, shops, anywhere and always thinking ‘they could overpower me and I wouldn’t be able to stop it.’ I’m not going to lie, there are a lot of men and women out there who could probably overpower me and beat me to a pulp with my real lack of muscle tissue from not working out… Ever. The difference is I don’t convince myself that this is going to happen because there’s a bloke in the same vicinity as me.
I am all for equal rights, but not just for women, for everyone and I absolutely draw the line when women start lumping men together in the category of ‘violent thug’ or whatever phrase is popular that week. A person – man or woman – is not necessarily going to attack you just because you are a female. Yes there are some shit eating people in the world who don’t deserve a moment’s thought but they’re the exceptions. Bad things happen in the world, it’s a sad, sad truth, but I don’t think that we as women need to shuffle around, carefully avoiding men that we don’t know. I accept that horrific things happen to women – and men – and something definitely needs to happen, something needs to change.
I don’t go about my everyday business quashing my thoughts about how men are better than me. You do get sleezy guys who rear their heads every so often but that’s just a hazard of the job. We can deal with them and all of the women I know, including myself are confident enough to deal with awkward situations. We don’t hide it, if something uncomfortable happens, I go straight to my boyfriend, my dad or my male housemates. I tell somebody, I don’t keep it a dirty little secret and then go on tumblr and slate the male gender. The more random oestrogen-fuelled articles I read about feminism, the more I’m finding it aggravates me to know what some women actually think about men. I have a lot of wonderful men in my life and I’m glad that they’re there. I also have a lot of good women in my life but in all truth some of the worst people that I’ve known have been female. It’s all about bring open and not judging people because of their gender. Ultimately, I’m going to stop reading these articles that appear on Facebook and just get on with life as soon as I’ve posted this blog article!
Peace out x